As I’m enjoying a quiet Sunday morning at the lake with my husband, I receive a blocked call on my business cellphone. I answer, thinking it was a business call since I am “on call” this weekend. They hang up. A few moments later my phone rings again. A lady comes on the line asking why I called her husband on Friday and wants to know why he has my number blocked. She told me who her husband was and where he worked. Shocked, I replied “umm… It was for buisiness” and she hung up. Moments later, I received this text:LUCKILY I don’t own any drama of my own and my husband was able to sit beside me, not questioning whether or not I had done something inappropriate and laugh at what had just transpired.
Part of me wants to laugh, part of me wants to scream, part of me wants to call this girl back and try to explain to her that relationships don’t have to be that complicated.
I work in a mans world, 95% of the customers I deal with on a daily basis are men. Is it easy? No. It’s friggin hard. It’s hard going into a business or on a jobsite where I get cat-called, judged or simply underestimated because I am a female. Its hard working in an industry where I’m viewed as less competent. It’s hard knowing whether or not a customer is going to think I am flirting with him or simply being friendly. It’s hard pulling up to a construction site and not wanting to get out of my truck because I would rather not be hit on or looked at inappropriately.
The pleasant experiences I have had outweigh the unpleasant, and there are tons of respectful gentlemen that I get the pleasure of doing business with every single day. But the few bad apples that are thrown in the mix, including this insecure wife-makes me dread going to work some days.
Men: I don’t want you. I want to do business with you. I want to be able to sell my company’s services to you and not have my intentions questioned. I don’t want our conversation to cross the professional line. I don’t want you to mistake my outgoing friendliness for flirting.
Women: I don’t want your man. I have my own. I have my own family and it is really, really great. I will continue to do my job to the best of my ability, and that includes calling on your husbands and boyfriends. Your support would be appreciated, my job is challenging enough.
To the woman I received this text message from: I called your husband because he is working on a project that I am heavily involved in. I got his number from his work colleague because I had a business question, our conversation lasted less that 30 seconds and it was over. Why he blocked my phone number is not because of me, it’s because of him. He has something to hide, not me. And you aren’t insulting me or hurting my feelings by telling me he said I was “f*ing weird”. I’m not. I will not respond to your text message-not because I have something to hide, but because I don’t have time for your drama. I contacted your husband for one reason, and one reason only: business.
Why would you want to live your life with jealousy, uncertainly and insecurity? My heart aches for you because that can not be a pleasant way to live life. Life is supposed to be fun, invigorating and fulfilling. Mine is-and I intend to keep it that way. Next time you need to question your husbands phone calls-question him, not the person on the other side of that phone number.